Sex is an opportunity for depth like no other.
It’s arguably the most relational thing we can do, the deepest we can get. Entering a portal together, a space where spirituality, energetics, emotions, the physical, the relational field—they are all potent and open, if we can allow for it.
Being inside one another—inside bodies, inside chakras, creating a shared energetic field—bringing two sovereignties together, two lives, two full life histories, two experiences, two sets of conditioning, woundings, fears and desires. Playing in a space of negotiation to create a win-win for both of us.
It’s mind blowing, really, but we don’t always bring that understanding to sex. And we do it somewhere on the spectrum of revealing ourselves to each other. Maybe completely closed and guarded, due to our previous experiences or indoctrination. Maybe with our minds and beings somewhere in the past or the future. Maybe with the intention to be completely, utterly open and here. Maybe a dance between presence and dissociation.
We’re encultured into sex as a pathway to orgasm.
It’s more than that (and yes, that part is fantastic too).
But it’s often the only part we focus on.
Sex has the potential to be a pathway to healing.
The potential to be a pathway to truth.
The potential to open us to ourselves, to how we relate.
The potential to open us to god, Life, the divine.
Sex minus the cultural narrative around sex. Sex minus the body and pleasure shame. Sex without porn influence. Sex without putting other’s preference above your own. Sex where you can feel, sense, and share your needs and desires.
It can feel like a dream in the world we've inherited (a world full of shame, objectification, expectations, and sex with people who didn't put our safety or pleasure first), but it's oh-so-possible. I've gone on the journey myself, and seen it in my clients. Moving from sex that's tolerable, okay, or even downright violating our boundaries—toward sex that's more and more in alignment, more and more pleasurable, more and more authentic and in the moment.
What does sex look like for you? What's your dream for what it could be?
If it feels safe enough, take a moment and feel into what sex means to you currently, and what you'd like it to mean. Journal into it. Maybe writing down your most expansive dreams, whispering about those places where you need healing balm, expressing your trepidations or stuck places ... imagine that just sharing just here and now might bring you a little bit closer to where you long to be.
I work with people who are figuring out who they really are, in sex and in life. Who are bringing more of themselves to the table. Who long to fully step into their lives and purpose from an embodied place.
If you’d like chat about working 1:1 with me - if you’re ready to get free and experience pleasure, play and depth - I’m here. Check out ways we can work together.